If you’re single, are you disillusioned because you haven’t met anyone with whom to have a loving relationship even though you have a lot to offer?
When you do meet someone, do you find it difficult to be in a relationship despite your best efforts?
Do you feel like your relationships always end in pain and rejection even though you do all the work?
Do you go from heart-break to heart-break and wonder whether you’ll ever find love that lasts?
Do you find it hard to trust, and do you fear rejection?
Are you feeling trapped in a toxic relationship? Are you feeling used and neglected?
It may seem like it’s impossible to find a fulfilling, lasting love. When your heart has been bruised repeatedly, it can be hard to pick yourself up again and to risk opening yourself wholeheartedly to another person.
You may lose faith in men and in your abilities to attract them and be with them. You might start to wonder whether there’s something wrong with you, and whether you are hopelessly unlovable and fatally flawed.
You may lose faith in your ability to love and be loved. You might give up on love because you start to think that love is something that happens to other people.
The love that you experience in your relationships is strongly determined by the attachment experiences you had as a child. We each create a ‘love blueprint’ based on the love we received from our parents and the ‘love patterns’ we created in our original family. These patterns influence the types of men you feel drawn to, the way you express love, the love you feel worthy of receiving, and the quality of your love relationships.
When you are unaware of your attachment history, you pick people who keep playing the same roles. You automatically choose partners who fit your unconscious understanding of what love looks like.
You may conclude:
- ‘I am the one who ends up with nothing.’
- ‘I am the one whom everyone leaves.’
- ‘I am the one who works so hard and gets only the crumbs.’
- ‘I am the one who gets left for someone better.’
You may decide you’re just doomed to meet these types of men, and that you’re bad at relationships and unworthy of love. But the truth is that you’re unconscious about your own conditioning.
According to psychologist and psychiatrist Carl Jung, “Until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our lives and we will call it fate.”
Journey to Wholeness offers a program called ‘Love is an Inside Job’.
The program draws on Depth Psychology, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology to help you examine your unique story about love, and find real love based on who you truly are.
- A deeper understanding of your unique attachment programming and the unconscious love patterns that you bring to your relationships
- Support as you transform those patterns and create new beliefs and visions based on your connection with the true you
- Creative visualisation exercises to reprogram your mind and heart and to help you trust that you deserve an incredible relationship
The Founder and CEO of Journey to Wholeness, Nicki Anderson is a DHA-registered, Dubai-based Occupational Therapist specialised in Child and Family Mental Health. She qualified in 1988. Nicki is also a Jungian Life Coach and a Certified WAVE Process® Practitioner.
You can read more about Nicki here
Contact Nicki at firstname.lastname@example.org for a complimentary introductory session.